Your Sexual Health is Super-Charged by the Natural Medicine of Humor

Giovanni Casanova (1725-1798) was an Italian adventurer, writer, soldier, musician, spy, and diplomat. Those accomplishments, however, have been historically overshadowed by Casanova’s reputation as a freewheeling sensualist. The term “Casanova” has come to represent a person of great sexual ability and indulgence.

The feeling that he wasn’t a “Casanova” and the thought that he should be, was what motivated Paul to seek my help. He was worried that he was letting his partner down sexually. Paul’s problem was not unique and it had an understandably common effect on his self-esteem and self-worth. Humans are sexual creatures, by nature, and the inability to enjoy healthy, appropriate sexual activity and/or sexual desire weighs heavily upon our holistic health and well-being.

When you are unable to enjoy appropriate sexual activity, your mind, body, and spirit feel off kilter because of your inherent sexual nature. You were born to have fun – and sex plays a large role in that. You deserve to have a regular, healthy expression of your sexual nature. It is fun and doesn’t need to harm or impose on anyone else.

Concerns regarding a lack of sexual activity, as well as a lack of sexual desire, are becoming more frequent each year. Consequently prescriptions for erectile dysfunction and low libido are growing at an astonishing rate. Perhaps part of that growth can be explained by a lessening of the stigma of reporting sexual problems, but we certainly know that the typical causes of sexual dysfunction are more common today than ever before. Putting aside diet and physical health, which can play a vital role in a healthy sexual lifestyle, the number one cause of sexual dissatisfaction is stress.

Stress-related illness is at an all-time high (and still growing), so it comes as absolutely no surprise that symptoms of stress are also prevalent. The good news for you is that we know what causes most of the debilitating stress you experience. Your stress is a direct byproduct of seriousness – taking yourself too seriously. As we move into adulthood, we unfortunately buy into the notion that responsible and productive people must be “serious.” As we make the biggest mistake of our lives and relegate our humor nature and fun to recreational activities (if we experience fun at all), we doom ourselves to all the symptoms of the corresponding seriousness that fills the void – declining health, rising stress, increased pain, lessened energy, impaired creativity, and more.

Even better news for you, however, is that we also know how to shrink your deadly seriousness to practically nothing and reduce almost completely the sway it holds over your health, vitality, wellness, and zest. The natural medicine of humor is an incredibly powerful resource that you already possess; you’ve only forgotten how to use it to maximum effectiveness. You will soon discover that, while not a panacea, the natural medicine of humor is a tremendous remedy for a variety of health concerns and will also supercharge other treatments because it is an amazing adjunctive medicine too!

I have distilled the natural medicine of humor, through my years of medical practice, into an amazing prescription I call The Fun Factor. Based on what I learned over twenty years ago from a terminally ill fifteen-year-old patient, I created a unique set of principles I call the Fun Commandments, then forged these Commandments into my Fun Factor prescription and have been prescribing The Fun Factor with great success for years. This report will show you how to use just three of my Fun Commandments to turn your sexual health and performance around, and gain new joy, pleasure, and appreciation from your sexual activity!

My first Fun Commandment has a profound effect on your sexual health because it is a fabulous introduction to the natural medicine of humor, in general: Go the Extra Smile. Smiling, as simple as it sounds, is a key to improved sexual appreciation because of its simplicity and almost constant appropriateness. A smile almost never offends and it is completely controllable, regardless of your circumstances; smiling is the easiest way to infuse yourself with the natural medicine of humor!

Smiling enhances your sexuality because it immediately decreases stress and fills you with energy and creativity. The best news about the positive effects of smiling is that these benefits are measurable even if you are wearing a “fake” smile. If you are thinking that lowering your stress level, while simultaneously snowballing your energy level and creativity, will add rocket fuel to your sexuality…you are absolutely correct!

Smiling has multiple benefits for your sexual health and wellness because it turbo-charges both your mood and your physiology. But smiling does another thing that accelerates your sexual satisfaction. It attracts reciprocal attention from your mate because a smile is an open invitation. Think of a smile as a happiness virus and you’ll soon realize that your improved sexual health, your reduced stress, and increased energy can be easily shared with your partner.

Another of my Fun Commandments that allows the natural medicine of humor to soup-up your sexuality is: Laugh with Yourself. Laughing with yourself is the epitome of self-acceptance, not self-denigration as you might’ve been led to believe. You cannot take yourself too seriously when you’re willing to laugh with yourself because you’re embodying the philosophy of taking yourself lightly.

Let’s face it, we are funny creatures and that’s how we’re supposed to be! Looked at objectively, our bodies are both fun and funny; the physical act of sex forces us to conjoin in some awkward and, almost, impractical ways. Giving ourselves permission to see the humor in our funny bodies and their functions eases the pressure we place on ourselves to perform sexually and our humor adds further fuel to our commitment to take ourselves less seriously.

Why wouldn’t we laugh out of sincere appreciation for our perfect imperfections and the funny physicality of sex? To not see the gentle, and sometimes obvious, humor in these things means we are taking ourselves, and our sexuality, way too seriously. It’s really all quite hilarious, in my opinion…we spend so much time, energy, and resources focusing on an act that takes less than 1% of our waking time. If we’re not careful this teeny, tiny portion of our day can dominate our culture and our personal thoughts! Not that you don’t have some good reasons to think about sex, but give yourself permission to gently laugh at your obsession and you’ll find some additional stress released.

The last Fun Commandment we’ll apply to your sexual health today is: Let Go Frequently. I always say that in life, as in juggling, success depends on how quickly you are able to let go. Also in life, as in juggling, we all have a tendency to hang on to things too long, even when they are no longer working for us. In this case, hanging on to our harsh expectations creates stress that deflates our sexuality because we are unable to measure up.

Society deluges us with images of youthful sexuality; it’s easy to imagine that everyone except us is engaged in passionate, daily sexual activity and we begin to feel that there is something wrong with us when our sex lives don’t match the Madison Avenue fantasies. Let go of those images today, because no one except you has the authority or knowledge to decide what your optimal sexual habits and practices should be. Your sexual expectations regarding frequency, sensation, and/or duration are only placing unneeded pressure on yourself and that pressure only creates more stress.

Let go of your expectations of performance too. Many of my patients and clients imagine they must achieve a certain level of sexual performance for their mates to be pleased. Nothing could be further from the truth. When you set expectations regarding outcomes, you set yourself up for failure because you are putting even more pressure on yourself. Let go of the end results; concentrate on the fun, joy, and love inherent in sex because that is where the true pleasure is found.

Let go of sexual frequency and performance expectations, smile, laugh with yourself, and go along with whatever unfolds as a result of your footwork today. If you can do these things you will be a very sexual, passionate creature and sexy in the most important eyes of all – yours! Remember that you are already perfect (perfectly imperfect) and you don’t need fixing. Instead of fixing yourself, use the natural medicine of humor to relax, smile, and enjoy the ride.

My patient, Paul, committed himself not only to these three Fun Commandments, but also to my entire Fun Factor prescription. He and his partner did not morph into Casanova’s…but they didn’t care because they formed their own definition of sexuality based on fun, joy, and love. Over time Paul and his partner arrived at an open, honest, and fun expression of sexual passion, based on my Fun Commandments, with a frequency and zest that satisfied both.

By the way, what you don’t know about Casanova was that his true value to humankind was not as a red-hot lover, but as one of the most gifted and authoritative social historians of his age. He spent his last years as a librarian, before dying of syphilis. Still want to be just like him? I suggest using the natural medicine of humor to find your own sexual identity and enjoy a healthy satisfying sex life of your own creation.

Essential Oils and Love, Sex and Soul

Many essential oils used in aromatherapy are believed to encourage loving feelings and to exert an aphrodisiac action. For instance, jasmine oil has long been used in love sachets and incenses not only to enhance romantic love but spiritual love as well. The Sufis revere jasmine as a symbol of both romantic and spiritual love. Kama, the Hindu god of love, tipped his arrows with jasmine flowers so they would have the power to infuse the heart with desire.

Rose oil is another example in this reference. Since ancient times, rose oil has been consistently classified as an oil of love, femininity and emotional feeling. Roman brides and bridegrooms were crowned with roses, as were the images of Venus and Cupid, and rose petals were scattered on the marriage bed. When Cleopatra invited Mark Antony to her palace, she had the floor covered with roses because of her fervent belief in the romantic power of the rose’s scent. And among some American Indian tribes, braves gathered wild roses for the hair of their brides.

A wealth of other examples can be provided. For instance, some of the “magical” purposes for which vetivert oil has traditionally been used include love spells and overcoming an aversion to the opposite sex. Ylang ylang is considered to be an aphrodisiac specific for impotence and frigidity. The name ylang ylang is translated by some as “flower of flowers.” Ylang ylang is also called perfume tree. In Indonesia, its flower petals are often strewn across the marriage bed as a symbol of love.

Neroli oil, distilled from the flowers of the bitter orange tree, is associated with romance and sensuality. A bride and groom of Crete are sprinkled with orange blossom water; in other countries, young brides traditionally wear a wreath woven from orange blossoms. In days past, orange blossoms were fastened to the horns of oxen pulling the cart of Sardinian honeymooners. After reading the above anecdotes, one might come to the conclusion that there’s a great deal of congruence among these essential oils regarding the sphere of romantic love. However, they present only a top-layer perspective of the oils.

Soul-Nature and Spiritual PhytoEssencing

Plants are alive, and everything that lives has a soul. An essential oil is the carrier of its plant’s soul; in order to fully individualize the use of an essential oil so it can act deeply, even constitutionally, one must first identify its unique soul-nature. Then, the oil needs to be matched with the soul-nature of the individual for whom it is intended. Spiritual PhytoEssencing is a synthesis of certain aspects of aromatherapy, herbal medicine and folk medicine, Kabbalah, Chinese medicine, classical homeopathy, modern physiology, depth psychology, gemstone healing, color therapy and anthroposophical science. The soul-nature of an essential oil, rather than its chemical action, is emphasized.

Though not accessible to our ordinary intellectual consciousness, this soul-nature is the key determinant of the character of the oil. Every living cell must be animated by a vital force, or “ensouled,” and it is this incarnation of higher forces into living tissue that lends each organism its tangible expression. Kabbalists refer to this as the “descent of soul into matter.”

Founder of anthroposophical medicine Rudolf Steiner notes: “Matter is most spiritual in the perfume of the plant…When the spirit most closely approaches the physical earth, then we have the perception of fragrance.” The Kabbalah teaches that while the taste of a fruit such as an orange nourishes a human being on a conscious level, the scent of its oil provides sustenance for one’s spiritual dimension. According to the Kabbalah, the human soul contains plant, animal and human soul components. Thus, each of us has the ability to relate to plant souls on a soul-to-soul level. Hence, an essential oil, the bonding medium for the soul of the plant, is uniquely suited to act as the physical entity that can facilitate an interface between plant and human souls.

The plant soul is not encumbered by ego, so it has the qualities of purity and infinity. Thus, the individualized plant soul combination within a customized essential oil blend, when proffered to a specific human soul, is eagerly received and infuses the latter with an impetus to move beyond limitation by changing its orientation from the finite to the Infinite. The key to moving the soul in this way is the formulation of an oil blend which accurately reflects an individual’s true essence. Just as no two snowflakes are alike, each soul is completely unique.

While essential oils of jasmine and rose appear similar at first glance-both are known for their enhancement of romantic love and lovemaking-they are really very different. The following discussion of these oils from a soul-nature perspective, as elaborated by the Spiritual PhytoEssencing synthesis, highlights their differences.

Jasmine Oil Type

One of the keynote symptoms of the jasmine oil individual is fear of losing self-control. The jasmine oil type strives with might and main to retain control over an existence whose fabric is fragile and easily rent. She is a coequal mixture of passionate, noble sentiments and emotional hypersensitivity and vulnerability. Her weaknesses are resistant to eradication because she is consumed with the need to hide them, and thereby avoid insult and humiliation. Also, the jasmine individual is very much a prisoner of parental suppressive influences which dominated her early years. Although within herself she can sense the nobility of her individuated soul-nature, these remain haphazard glimpses that cannot be woven into a consistent pattern because she subconsciously continues to enforce the restrictions placed upon her at an earlier time by others. Hence, the jasmine oil type is an unstable mixture of feelings of nobility and low self-esteem, unsatisfied urges and impulsive actions.

In the realm of sexuality, she will either demonstrate extreme control manifesting as prudishness, lack of spontaneity or even frigidity, or else a lack of control manifesting as obsessive sexual fantasies, excessive masturbation and/or promiscuity. Here, we see not only the issue of control but also the theme of an inability to develop individuality, for the jasmine oil type is inherently romantic and passionate. Thus, in the case of the sexually repressed jasmine individual, there is no outlet for her unique admixture of romanticism and sexuality. Regarding the lascivious jasmine individual, the dominance of the more animalistic aspect of sexuality precludes the expression of a truly romantic nature.

Rose Oil Type

A keynote of the rose oil individual is the feeling of there is always hope. In fact, the central theme of rose is: If I find true love, everything will be okay. The Beatle’s tune “All You Need Is Love” is a perfect theme song for this type. Despite a record of love-interest disappointments and sorrow, an ember of hope continues to glow within the rose individual. She thinks: If only he will change this about himself, we can have the loving, intimate relationship I yearn for.

Also, this person is prone to fantasies about finding “Mr. Right.” She holds out hope that any trip she takes, any party she attends, any new job she takes, etc. offers the possibility of meeting her soul-mate. She may even believe that someday her one true love, perhaps her high school sweetheart that she broke up with decades ago, will reappear in her life and they will begin anew where they left off. In other words, the secret love she has revisited in her mind countless times magically returns to rescue her from the humdrum of an ordinary relationship. The rose oil type has a strong desire to travel which stems from fantasies about passionate romance in exotic locales rather than from a pronounced interest in other cultures. The rose oil picture also features the symptom: impulse to run. In some cases, the rose individual will impulsively leave a romantically unsatisfying relationship that’s safe and secure for a romantically charged one, even if it proves volatile and risky.

Sexual Love and Soul

Romantic love is a part of the flame of higher love which is always aglow in the human heart. Couples will, from time to time, encounter challenges that threaten their love. But rather than destroying a relationship, such challenges should refine it until it ascends to the very essence of Divine Love. In this reference, the great Kabbalist Abraham Isaac Kook writes: “Who can restrain the light of higher love that stirs in the heart…It beats like a gentle wind filled with delightful fragrance, at the same time roaring like the waves of the sea.” Kook’s comparison of higher love to a “delightful fragrance” is very telling regarding this discussion of Spiritual PhytoEssencing. True love between two people not only enhances the connection to their higher selves, but also serves as the foundation for a meaningful life and the realization of one’s full potential.

Sexual attraction in humans is so strong that it’s one of the few influences to offset the natural tendency of the human ego toward self-centeredness. Sexual love can help to overcome the power of egotism and inspire spiritual transformation, or individual “rebirth.” When sexual activity is merely a mechanism of delusional feelings or of submissive supplication, the soul cannot gainfully contribute to cultural or spiritual life. Hence, for an essential oil to be able to encourage true healing in the realm of love and intimacy, one must first assess its relevance for a particular individual by examining its innermost domain.

Copyright 2006 by Joseph Ben Hil-Meyer Research, Inc.

10 Ways to Naturally Increase Your Sex Power

Sex is an integral part of our life. It is one of the most precious gifts given by nature to mankind. Sex is one of the most basic things that is required by our body. The feeling of fulfilling sex can not be compared to anything. It gives immense pleasure, builds a strong bond between couples, reduces anxiety, tension, depression and anger.To enjoy sex life to its fullest and be able to enjoy sex life till old age we can follow these simple steps:

1- Diet: Diet rich in protein is a very rich fuel for sexual energy. Zinc and vitamin B-Complex is also very important for sex. Avoid excessive salt intake and diet rich in saturated fats.

2- Exercise: It is a very common conception that heavy body builders have more sexual power than those who are lean and thin. This a completely wrong conception.. A man with lean and thin physique may be very active sexually than a man with muscular and showman body. Even moderate and light exercise can help to increase the sex power greatly. On the contrary a wrongly done heavy exercise done without any supervision can badly affect a man’s sex life. Se the next time you hit the gym… be sure not to overdo… In fact a 30 minute jogging or running and simple push ups can do wonders for your sex power if done correctly.

3- Lifestyle: Avoid sedentary lifestyle. Try to be as physically active as possible. A lazy lifestyle can lead to numerous medical problems like diabetes and obesity which are known to be killing your sex life.

4- Keep away from anxiety, tension and excessive workload.

5- Live life with energy and enthusiasm. Follow your dreams, indulge in your hobbies as often as you can and enjoy the things you like in your life. Happy people are said to enjoy sex more than those who are tensed.

6- Take a glass full of milk daily, preferably with 2-4 pcs of dates.

7- Grind equal quantity of almonds, apricot and cashew with dates and take it with a spoonful of honey in the morning. It is very good for increasing sex power.

8- Milk of camel is considered as a wonderful medicine to increase sex power.

9- Take 5 grams of pure mucuna pruriens powder with a glass of milk daily to increase sex power and enjoy having sex till old age.

10- Aloe Vera juice is also very effective in increasing the sex power.

By following these simple steps you can easily and greatly increase the sexual stamina and endurance. But in more severe cases or when these simple measures don’t work, it is highly recommended to consult a sexologist.